Archive for March, 2009

Tweets for 2009-03-22

Monday, March 23rd, 2009
  • New Blog Entry, “Tweets for 2009-03-21″ – http://tinyurl.com/cxqtjg 02:34:29
  • Waking Up thought: in the dimming of Hope, Urgency becomes a Tyrant: victims include seeds, children, beauty, and souls. 07:18:36
  • Think Wesley’s 3 rulz: Do no Harm, Do Good, Stay in love with God…Temptation come to delay/turn away our journey to live that freed life. 11:27:29
  • RT @TheCharmQuark: RT @AceConcierge: RT @lunajade: “The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled.” ~ Plutarch 11:27:57
  • Energy drain reaching critical levels. System shutting down. Time for a nap. #fb 14:49:52
  • Early morning tomorrow to deliver girls to school for before school practices. Time to start heading in bed direction. Maybe read some. 21:59:32
  • was just told he was the best Dad for doing some emergency computer work to save Barbara’s school project for tomorrow. Go me. #fb 23:04:19
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Tweets for 2009-03-21

Sunday, March 22nd, 2009
  • New Blog Entry, “Tweets for 2009-03-20″ – http://tinyurl.com/dm3p25 01:34:54
  • RT @divinelove: “Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles; it empties today of its strength.” @Fitcoach2007 10:48:28
  • OK. through the basics of the Jobeet tutorial with #symfony. Time to start on my own warm-up project before I tackle the huge project. 10:49:54
  • doing some computer programming playing this morning, then it’s prepare for sermon/confirmation time after lunch. #fb 10:50:50
  • FYI. my first #symfony project is akin to Jobeet, but connects Spiritual Directors in/around Iowa with people seeking that connection. 10:54:26
  • RT @DrJennifer: “Change happens when we are willing to allow and embrace our frightening, most hidden secrets.” http://twurl.nl/3j8cp1 12:43:12
  • RT @emergentvillage: “There’s nothing scarier than charity without love.” — Phyllis Tickle #cac09 . (via @miketodd07) 13:12:42
  • fell asleep after church tonight, then awoke remembering I hadn’t finished Confirmation Prep for the morning. 22:26:46
  • is hoping his Confirmation students will make connection between Lent, athletic training, and a desire for purity and serenity. 23:02:13
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Tweets for 2009-03-20

Saturday, March 21st, 2009
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Tweets for 2009-03-19

Friday, March 20th, 2009
  • New Blog Entry, “Tweets for 2009-03-18″ – http://tinyurl.com/dkkz3g 01:29:44
  • Very helpful idea:RT @TheCharmQuark: An idea to help keep working and doing when you can’t even bear to get out of bed: http://bit.ly/KkXWp 07:34:41
  • Ahhh, Good Earth Sweet and Spicy tea is becoming a new favorite. 10:39:53
  • New Blog Entry, “From Persuasion to Expression” – http://tinyurl.com/cx6dvs 11:42:24
  • Every Thursday, I go ramble about upcoming sermon ideas with a group of folks at local care center. They don’t mind. It helps them nap. ;) 12:16:26
  • Are we willing to Do Good even when our actions are ignored and we don’t receive the thanks we think we deserve? 15:01:36
  • At parent-teacher conferences. I wonder why some conversations go on so long. 17:15:10
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From Persuasion to Expression

Thursday, March 19th, 2009

There is a set of notes on this week’s sermon preparation worksheet that I am pretty sure won’t fit, that I don’t want to lose out on giving life to.

I woke up the other morning with this contrast in my head: “I cannot persuade or convinve, but I can behold and celebrate, witness and express.”

Ever since our Stephen Ministry training materials talked about the difference between being result oriented and process oriented, I have been chipping away at shifting my overall perspective of life to reflect that new way. Simply stated, whenever we find our goals and expectations connected to what another person does for or because of us, we are goal oriented. That orientation becomes a source of frustration within ourselves and a temptation to manipulate and control in relationship to others. For better self and other relationship the idea is to keep our focus oriented on our participation in the process of life.

In order to live fully while participating in the process of life, did you catch the tricky part? We have to relinquish control. As an Enneagram 8, this is a hard one for me. Control and the fear of being under the control of others is a big red flag within my heart and soul. To remain in process means that we need to cultivate surrender and trust in deeper and broader ways.

I’ve been casting my attention to personal and ministry goals lately and noticing how pervasive this goal-orientation is. What are common ministry goals for a church? To increase attendance in worship, to get more people in  small groups, to increase financial contributions by ??%, etc. They sound good, but they set us up for manipulation and despair when people just don’t respond as we expected/wanted them to.

So with that idea, it is harder for me to be satisfied with motivations and goals that include the idea of persuading or convincing people. Even the idea of making people’s spiritual lives better or imporving their walk with God pushes that control button for me. I have to keep reminding myself, that I have no power or control over what another person decides or feels or thinks, why act as if I can influence or change that.

I find ideas like witness and express becoming more important to my motivations for writing and preaching and teaching. People don’t have to agree with or even like what I say. Am I clearly and fully expressing my own heart and thought? I certainly want to do so in a caring way, because expressing includes being true to my own personal integrity. And if I am simply expressing without any expectation of a result I have removed the teeth of manipulation and control from communication.

The other ideas that fit within my spiritual direction and worship leadership lives are Behold and Celebrate. I cannot create an experience of God within my spiritual directees or within the worshippers. When I try, then I become invasive of their very heart and soul. I have experienced that from the other side and it is not pleasant or respectful. Yet, we can together behold what God is doing in life and we can as a community (whether it is one on one, in small group, or larger congregation) celebrate (give witness to) that activity of God within us.

As I make this shift in my own life, I find less frustration and more fulfillment in ever increasing parts of my life and ministry.

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Tweets for 2009-03-18

Thursday, March 19th, 2009
  • Whoa, look at the time. Up late playing with #symfony ‘s jobeet tutorial. time now for sleep. 00:05:37
  • New Blog Entry, “Tweets for 2009-03-17″ – http://tinyurl.com/d552v2 01:42:24
  • RT @mdemuth: “For the last 30 years I have looked for the face of Christ in the people with whom I have disagreed.” Bishop Whipple: Minnsota 08:29:24
  • From a dream last night: Church! STAY! (Stop Thinking it’s About You!) Stop trading the creation (us and organization) for Creator. 09:28:41
  • going to be a long day with meetings until 8:30 (if lucky) putting in some morning hobby coding before office. #fb 09:30:16
  • home from Finance Committee. How are other churches coping with donations down? 20:39:09
  • enough emotional de-stressing (still learning #symfony) Time now for sleep, a blessed gift. 23:02:36
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Tweets for 2009-03-17

Wednesday, March 18th, 2009
  • New Blog Entry, “Tweets for 2009-03-16″ – http://tinyurl.com/clcw6n 01:31:21
  • Retweet @TheCharmQuark I think the lesson for today is: “Don’t think like them, think like you.” 07:12:44
  • Woke up with thought: I can’t persuade you of anything. I can only witness/express, behold/celebrate. Rest is your choice/power. 07:45:04
  • woke up from a dream that Harry Potter visited Narnia. Wierd. 07:55:47
  • New Blog Entry, “We were Literally ROFL” – http://tinyurl.com/cldwhb 08:57:22
  • RT @twitchinggrey: “Twitter is like bragging about your unexceptional life.” ROFL … oh wait! DOH! http://tinyurl.com/cx723z 09:16:48
  • RT @johncmaxwell: New blog entry. Developing the Creativity (that may or may not be) within You: http://is.gd/nKGR 14:54:39
  • Next Crisis lesson: hope invites us to look beyond Snapshot perspective on our life. Paradox: by taking the long-view, we live in the Now. 14:59:34
  • end of “workday” still have a meeting tonight so not really done. *sigh* #fb 16:45:06
  • Energy is low at the moment. Maybe a time for centering prayer to reconnect with the Source/Essence/Beloved before going home. 16:46:37
  • RT @OnlineDisciples: It’s important for us to value Theology, Strategy, and God’s Heart for people and the nations. They work together. 21:59:31
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We were Literally ROFL

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009

Occasionally, my mind follows strange pathways (my family protests at the use of the word “Occassionally”). Last night, I was playing with puns and rolled together this story. It left my teenage daughter literally rolling on the floor laughing so hard she couldn’t breathe. (this is a tightened up version of the story)

On the edge of a forest lived William. He was known for many things. He was an artist when it came to ceramics and he specialized in pig figurines with delightful little bumps all over them. He had a marvelous beard that he never cut, but kept clean and unsnarled. The entrance to his shop was decorated most beautifully and was a tourist attraction itself. And, he wasn’t very smart.

Everyone in the village knew that if they ever wanted Hog Warts figurines, they would find the Hairy Potter behind Dumb Bill’s Door.

Well, maybe you had to have been there.

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Tweets for 2009-03-16

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009
  • New Blog Entry, “Tweets for 2009-03-15″ – http://tinyurl.com/d8zyx2 00:27:29
  • RT @lensweet: In a very short time,we’ve gone from being surprised at bad service to being surprised a good service. Wonder what this says 07:27:53
  • trying to wake up on this Monday a.m. Not very easy for some reason. hoping the kinks straighten out, much I want to do this day and week 07:29:38
  • Day 7: New Cat/Older Cat (NC/OC) is tentatively venturing out of hiding. Old Cat/Young Cat wants to play, but NC/OC isn’t quite ready. #fb 09:12:39
  • Expectations are pre-conceived resentments. – Sister Dawn Annette Mills 10:18:47
  • Need this thought today: RT @jenlouden: What would open your heart to the day, help you be soft and open, no matter what’s on the calendar? 10:21:57
  • is afraid he is catching a cold. Bleah #fb 10:22:26
  • New Blog Entry, “Stop looking up high in Crisis” – http://tinyurl.com/czk2qs 11:27:12
  • “You never really understand a theory, one just gets used to it.” Stephen Hawking. I feel this way about #Enneagram and the Trinity 16:01:33
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Stop looking up high in Crisis

Monday, March 16th, 2009

Yesterday I started a preaching series on Lessons from the Crisis Center. First focus area was worry and Care. One scripture source was Psalm 121. Here are the first couple verses:

I lift my eyes to the hills–
from where will my help come?
My help comes from the Lord,
who made heaven and earth. – Psalm 121:1-2 NRSV

I can remember a few years ago, I thought this was such a wonderful image: we go through troubled times and then we cast our eyes up to hills where God sits enthroned above the heavens and we find there, God’s help.

Then I was reminded of an important piece of the original cultural context that changed the dynamics of this image.

When the Psalmist wrote, this hills were not necesarily the residence of the God of creation, others resided there. The hills surrounding Jerusalem and ther other town in Judea held the High Places, the temples and worship centers for the various idols and other gods that were continued temptations and the shame of the people which led to their eventual conquering and captivity. While Yahweh created them and led them into freedom and the promised land, the hills and the rituals that resided there remainded active. The gods of fertility and harvest, the beings that resided in the air and the sea and the soil seemed so much more accessible to the people than Yahweh who eschewed those statues and visible representations. And as the cult in Jerusalem grew in influence, I can imagine it was much easier to just go to the corner high place to say a prayer and make a small sacrifice than to travel all the way to the temple or tabernacle site.

Even today we understand the importance of visibility and accessibility in marketing: location, location, location.

But of course, we in our modern/post-modern civilized society doesn’t need to worry about High Places and idol worship, right?

In my mind, I believe we become susceptible to idolatry when we seek in other people or other things the source of life and when we become more enamored of the creation over the Creator. With that idea, there are many places within and without the church that can become for us the High Places.

As I was thinking of “lifting up our eyes to the hills” to seek our help from other things, I can see us naturally looking in 3 basic places for help outside of God. And all three have a strong element of personal control.

The first one would be trying to fix things through our skills and programs (skill sets). Things aren’t working so we initially think we are doing something wrong. If it’s broken, maybe I can fix it. I can learn. I just need to find the right book/expert/trainer/helper/blog that will teach me just what I can do to make it all better. I have benefited (and continue to benefit) from authors of all kinds in learning about being a parent, husband, preacher, pastor, spiritual director, manager, more productive person, and a writer. My extensive personal library is a testimony to some of that assistance, but it is also a symptom of the vulnerability to this High Place in my life. I know the inner dialogue: “this book really helped me with this, but it isn’t quite right, maybe this new book will be just what I need to get it all figured out and under control… ooh, pretty cover.”

It doesn’t have to be limited to personal Skill learning, just consider the plethora (I love that word) of programs available to churches and businesses to get their ministry/marketing/fund-raising/inter-personal communications/etc on a winning track. Every church I have ever been in has a closet somewhere with old stewardship campaign programs that work for a year or two and then no longer “produce” so need new skill sets. I can also name in my own life many schools of thought that are important to who I am, but can so easily become the be-all-and-end-all of idea systems: process, post-modern, liberation, spirtuality, enneagram, labyrinths, missional, family systems, and lately emergent, and I know there are so many more. Good ideas and great learnings, but when they become our High Places and source of life, we each have a problem.

A second High Place would be technology and our tools. Nothing bad about them as far as they go, but it is so easy to become so wrapped up in the latest and greatest that we get out of focus. Just ask my wife, I love technology and I can so easily get wrapped up in computers, internet, blogs, twitter, and I know the next “best” thing will be attractive. I have been blessed with limited spending money otherwise I would be one of those who envy and drool over the latest hardware (look it is so tiny and does so much). Sure, I have tried Covey, and GTD, and other tools to get past productivity blocks, but I haven’t found the right one yet (so, the drive for more power and more help is fueled).  How much do we depend on our technologies (hardware and software and processes)  to be The Answer that will fix all of our personal and societal ills? The more we do, the more we “lift our eyes to the hills.”

The third High Place I considered is energy. No, not green or electrical or wind or ethanol, but personal energy. How often do we respond to something being wrong by trying to apply more energy to it. We work harder. We work faster. Somehow we think that we face our crisis and problem because we haven’t done enough, or we haven’t done it fast enough (overlap with technology), or well enough. (overlap with skills). We get stuck in that idea of personal control. I can fix my own problem with my own energy and my own work and using my own tools and applying my own skills. One of the hooks of idolatry in my mind is measuring. I don’t have what I want becuase I haven’t done enough to please the god. Or I didn’t practice the ritual correctly, I didn’t say the right words, but this time I will get it right and I will give enough so the god (of technology, of the market, of whatever) will finally deem me worthy of getting what I want.

Terrible traps aren’t they? We are all there and keeping coming back. I find myself a bit more sympathetic to those early Israelites and Judeans who just couldn’t give up their High Places.

But the witness and invitation of the Psalmist still comes to us. The source of our help needs to be based not in ourselves or in our control of things, but in the true source of life and help, the Creator. We are afraid and we worry because we find ourselves with a healthy shadow of doubt that God is there caring for us and helping us. And that is the grace of faith: to reverse the perspective. Put those technologies and skills and our investment of energy back into their places of serving  andbeing conduits for the flow of God’s Creating and Living Essence. We have to continue being intentional about seeing God working through those various gifts. As we do that, I think even the hills will breathe a sigh of relief to be able to be just what God created them to be: witnesses to all the ways God is at work in living.

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